Tokyo Ever After: Book Club Discussion Questions on Identity and Belonging

Jun 11

3 min read

Updated: Aug 6

Origami cut-out of a Japanese princess in an orange turtleneck

Age: YA (14+)

Genre: Romance

Quick Review of Tokyo Ever After

This delightful YA romance is basically the Japanese Princess Diaries, and I’m completely on board. The book explores questions about identity, family relationships, and honoring your culture while still being yourself.

Book Club Questions

To start the book, Izumi feels like she is missing part of herself by not understanding her Japanese heritage. How would you summarize what Izumi learns about her heritage by the end of the book? Have you been impacted by learning about your ancestors and/or cultural heritage?
Izumi is part of the multi-racial Asian Girl Gang (AGG), who bond because they’re the only Asians in town. Have you been part of an otherwise diverse group because you shared one such similarity? Conversely, have you been assumed to be part of a group because you shared something in common with them?
Izumi’s personality and lifestyle are far more laid-back and casual than the imperial family’s, and she’s expected to adapt. Do you think this expectation is fair? Have you ever had to adapt to a style very different from your own? How did you feel about the experience?
United States culture is individualistic whereas Japanese culture is collectivistic, and Izumi is often at odds to balance the two. In your opinion, what are the pros and cons of each culture? Where on the scale do you think Izumi fell by the end of the book?
While engaging in an ancient Japanese ritual, Izumi comments, “It’s wonderful and slightly terrifying to be part of something bigger than yourself.” Have you experienced this? Do you agree?
Izumi notes that both she and Akio were “born to play certain roles.” Does this happen in your culture? Have you felt like your life (or an aspect of it) was predetermined?
Akio tells Izumi that she leads with her heart. When is this valuable? When does it get her in trouble? What would a family member or close friend say you lead with?
One of the book’s themes is Izumi’s struggle to balance being true to herself while embracing her cultural heritage and role as a princess. Do you think she succeeds? If you found out you were royal, what elements of your personality/lifestyle would you be determined to keep?
Izumi draws a distinction between a father and a dad, noting that the former is a biological identifier but the latter is an earned title. She refers to her male parent as her father until his last night in Mount Shasta, after which she thinks of him as Dad. How did he finally earn that title? Discuss fathers vs dads in context of your own experience.
Mariko tells Izumi that calligraphy is an expression of the soul. What practice/hobby/etc. do you consider an expression of your soul, and why? Bonus: try drawing calligraphy and share what yours says about you.
When Izumi’s father compiles her family history as a present, Izumi says it’s “the best gift anyone has ever given [her.]” What makes family history so valuable? What is the most meaningful gift you’ve ever received, and what made it special?
Izumi has different nicknames and monikers throughout the book: Izzy, Zoom Zoom, the Lost Butterfly, HIH Princess Izumi, Radish, Izumi-chan, and the Iron Butterfly. Which do you think embodies her best, and why? What nicknames have you had throughout your life, and what have they meant to you?